Questions for the Flist

[ceitfianna]

As I wait for my brother's family to invade for Memorial Day weekend and then hopefully I'll get Di and friend later, I wanted to ask for some help.

Now everyone knows that I'm waiting to hear back from Michigan and the waiting is slowly gnawing at me and overall not making me happy or healthy or anything good. So my question is what do you do when you're waiting to keep yourself from going slowly mad?

The other question which is sort of tied in is what do you do about those various nagging self doubting voices? How do you combat them and keep a steady reminder of no that's not accurate or all you are?

I'm really curious to see what everyone has to say and hopefully I will be kept really busy this weekend so doubt and waiting don't tie me into more knots.

Small edit, at some point this afternoon I stopped getting notifications from livejournal, has anyone else been having this problem? Also if I missed a tag, that's probably why.

Comments

[yakalskovich]

While I was waiting for my niece to be born (she was 3 weeks late) in 1999, I coloured in mandalas. There were esoteric olouring books for grownups that were very much in vogue back then. Did it ever evening to distract myself from the horrible worry about what might happen to Sphinx and her kid.-

[herdivineshadow]

I thought there was an lj news post about then notifications things, but I can't be sure. Bit vague on that one.

The self-doubt thing... I dunno. I'm not sure I've ever really experienced too much of that - I got lucky I guess. I suppose you've just got to put in the work in beforehand, as it were. Be satisfied you have done the best that you could have or have weighed up your options and put in the appropriate level of effort that you decide whatever you are doing requires (if it is not your best).

Then the thing is to accept and be content with the fact that there is nothing more that you can now do. That's probably the hardest part of it I suppose.

For me it's a bit like when I'm on a boat - I don't get seasick because I accept wholeheartedly that I am moving, even though say on ferry, I am inside and my eyes cannot see that I am moving up and down with the water. I disregard what my eyes tell me and reconcile what I know to be true with what I feel - the movement of the ship.

My mum on the other hand, gets hella seasick because she keeps trying to find tricks to get around it and doesn't just accept that the boat is moving.